Recently it felt like I hit rock bottom in my marriage. While we have been thriving in many areas of life, our marriage had hit a point in which it was do or die.
What I mean by that was, I'm sure at some point most relationships hit that flight or fight point. We had ours and I must say it was scary and painful and relieving. It scary because no person gets married thinking it could end. It was painful because you have to face yourself, the good, the bad, and the ugly. But it was relieving because we were able to talk about quite a few things and recommit ourselves to the vows we took.
Marriage can be so beautiful if we move out the way and do it God's way. Another thing we have to remember, and I had to realize, is that marriage is a place of servitude. Especially as a wife. As we are called to be helpers. Our husbands are not our helpers and I think that's where many of us go wrong, thinking he's supposed to consistently do whatever to help us. NO. It's the other way around! We are to shift around him, doing whatever is necessary to help him to realize the vision he has for the family.
I will admit, I did NOT always get this. There were many days in which I would expect my husband to work a 12-hour shift then come home to help out with the kids. Talk about selfish! Mind you I did not work. And now? I have a new perspective, on days that he works I do not expect him to come home from work to help with the kids. I expect him to come home to relax and enjoy his evening before going to bed. I expect to serve him in any way I can.
I am not the perfect wife, as much as I wish I were. LOL. I will admit however that I strive to be the Proverbs 31 wife. And I implore every wife reading this to stop thinking of herself first, put God first then your husband. Think of his needs, his likes and dislikes. Think of how you can help him and if you don't know on your own, GO ASK. And when he answers actually do it. Regardless to if it requires to wake up extra early, get it done. Your marriage will thank you later.
So tell me how are you a helper to your husband? Or how do you intend to become a helper to your husband?
Let's Grow in Christ together!!