Life & value

Where have our values went? Society as a whole, where did our values go. It seems like after the civil rights movement happened society slowly but surely started losing sight of what's important. People started trying to find the get rich quick schemes instead of working hard & being fair. The government made it where fathers are driven from the home in order for their families to get public assistance. When the government should have made it where the ENTIRE family could get assistance regardless to whether the mothers are single or not.
Families started devaluing the importance of having God in the home, in seeking God. I'm somewhat baffled by the no church in school yet the bible is uses during inaugurations & during court cases. Where they do that at?!
I remember reading the bible &  Israel asked God for a king so they could be like other nations. And unfortunately they ended up suffering because of that & God told them they would suffer.
That is an example to be careful what you ask for & to trust God to God. Because even at our strongest we are still weaker than God. At our "wisest" we are deemed fools to God.
I just want to see this entire world turn back to God. Too many of us have become lovers of ourselves. We gab become pompous idiots, oblivious & ignorant of the God's truth.

I pray for your eyes to be opened, for your spirit to become open to God & His will. For God's will to manifest in your life. That you will seek Him & accept Him with open arms. That you are given a burning desire to fellowship with Him. That you are given an insatiable thirst for Him.

Think like a lady act like a lady

<p>I see many are enthused by Steve Harvey's book. I think he had good intentions however as women we were created by God in a certain fashion.<br>
As a woman I am thankful that I am not anything like a man. I like that I am feminine that by being a woman that it is a man's responsibility to be the man.</p>
<p>Think about it, in scripture a woman is told to submit in love. However a man is told to cherish, to love, to provide, to protect. He is also charged with being the head of house meaning that God will come to Him when necessary. <br>
Women of course we do the other domestic things such as cooking, cleaning, and nurturing the kids. However I think that's a good trade off. And nowadays men are just as clean as us &amp; some men can cook &amp; enjoy cooking. So its not all on us.</p>
<p>But even if it was I think its a good trade off. I am a stay home wife &amp; mom. I do all the domestic chores however that works for me since I don't have to work (or deal with the direct stress from it) &amp; I don't have to worry about who could be watching my children. </p>
<p>So ladies embrace being a woman. Embrace being what God made you to be. If God wanted you to think like a man, He would have made you a man &amp; not a woman. So please don't insult Him by trying to think as a man or behave like a man. </p>
<p>I remember women say they read the book so they understood men. However if you went about dating God's way then you wouldn't need to. That's because you would be so deeply embedded in God that any man trying to date you would need to seek Him prior to seeking you out. You wouldn't have to worry about sexual relations because you would know &amp; accept that sex comes along AFTER marriage not BEFORE.&nbsp; So resting in that knowledge, you wouldn't worry about such impurities. You would wait for God to send your husband instead of chasing after "randoms." In other words do EVERYTHING God's way and you won't need to worry about anything except God until your God given husband comes along & even then you trust the God in him.

Submission vs. Obedience

As a wife one of our duties to our husband is submission. However in today's society many of us women come from families where we are not taught to how to be submissive nor are we told that in marriage we would need to submit to our husbands. 

Prior to getting married I had not read up on marriage and wifely duties. However I now realize that I never took the time to truly understand how to act upon what I thought I knew. It is one thing to know and acknowledge these things is something completely different to put them into action. Prior to getting married I had a very general knowledge of relationships. Now the longer I am married the more I add to this knowledge.

{Now may I remind you I am yet still in the learning stages of putting into action these things. As I learn and better acquaint myself I will inform you here.} 

First off I start (doing this today to see a better me and to have a better marriage) by defining the terms submit and submission. Then I define obey and obedience. Now I do this to see what are the difference in the terms and why do people interchange them as such.

To submit is to yield or surrender oneself to the will and authority of another. Now to yield is to produce or provide. To surrender is to relinquish possession or control. Those alone are two different words which are used as the same word. 

Submission is the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will and authority of another person. Accepting is to consent to receive or agree to undertake. Yielding is complying with the requests or desires of others.

To obey is to comply with the command, direction,or request of another. To comply is to act in accordance with a wish or command. 

Obedience is compliance with someone's wishes or orders or acknowledgement of their authority.

Compliance is the action of complying with a wish or command.

Now I've read and reread these definitions and I always notice that they are listed as synonyms of each others. Now granted they are similar words they are not the same. To submit is to yield to another's authority. To obey is to comply with a command. 

Something I've noticed is that submission will lead to obedience however obedience will not always lead to submission. See you can obey without submitting because to truly submit requires mutual respect. However when you truly submit to one you can do so and in doing so you will accede to their wishes (otherwise known as obey).

As a woman this submit word is like a lemon, very bitter. To submit to a man is to have faith that is man has your best interest at heart. And furthermore, the bible requires this of us as wives. So as a wife I am to submit to my husband and in turn he is to love me as he would love himself. 

This is where many go wrong. There are some husbands who will not fully submit to God and STILL expect their wife to fully submit to them. As a wife bent on pleasing God she  will fully submit when she knows that her husband has fully submitted to God. Because if he is fully submitted to God she can rest easy knowing that it is actually God steering them and their marriage.

So I implore men and women to first submit to God. Once you have submitted to Him submitting to someone who is in submission to Him will be easier because you will feel safe in the knowledge that God is the lead of their life. Men before you tell a woman to submit to you, you need to be in submission to God. What woman wants a man leading them who doesn't know where he is going in the first place?!  That's like the blind leading the deaf. 

Ladies to submit is NOT saying that you are weak or less than. Because to be honest, men and women fill 2 different roles. Men are the head and guess what? God will always deal with him first. He is to be the provider and protector. He is to cherish and love you. No matter what happens. Women are the nurturer thus our softer demeanor (generally). We are the caretaker of home and children. Now that is not to say our husbands will not help around the house, because they should fill in where there is a void. and vice versa.

I have personally learned from this "exercise" by knowing that I need to FULLY submit to God and maybe in seeing that I am in submission to God, my spouse may acknowledge this in his submission to God and thus we will submit to each other with me deferring to his authority in our marriage. I am recognizing that in my submission to Christ, I can start off obeying my husband which can grow to full blown submission. {Many of us have to take steps versus leaps; walking before running}

I hope this has been of some help!
God bless :)

Spiritual Center

Your spiritual center starts with seeking out God. You develop a relationship with Him. You fellowship with Him. You grow in His word. Now many of us get to the crossroad of do I commit my life to Christ and live abundantly in Him OR do I stay living a life of sin being on the fence of obeying God and doing my own thing?

For many who are caught up in a worldly existence, committing their life to Christ seem to be the hardest thing ever. And if you are lukewarm in your stance for Christ, you become mute in your seeking of God. What I mean by mute, is that God is not quite listening to you because you have not committed to Him. You are denying Him full access to you & your life.

Now you feel off, you feel disconnected from your spiritual center. And that is why. God wants your attention & your devotion. And He's a jealous God. He won't allow you to serve Him & sin at the same time. Actually its impossible to serve both righteousness (God) and sin (devil) at the same time. If you are not serving God completely then you are serving the devil. If you choose to consistently sin knowing that what you are doing is wrong then you are snubbing God & unconsciously serving the devil's purpose.

So if you want your spiritual center back, you need to seek God and completely reconcile yourself to Him. Once you do that you are well on your way. Remember faith without works is dead. So you must confess & repent of your sins then you must make a conscious effort to not allow your flesh do what it wants.

Everyday you should ask God to kill your flesh so that it does not try to push you into sin.

I pray for you, for your strength. I pray that you fight the good fight if faith. I pray you come back into God's Will & commit actions that preserve your commitment to Christ & His kingdom. I pray that you recognize the devil's advances toward you and that you run to God for coverage.

Your initial fight is within yourself. To conquer your flesh which will always want to sin versus your spirit which wants to please God. Take it one day at a time. If you start your day off in prayer use that prayer time to ask for a fleshly death daily. And ask for God's spirit to rise up in you.

God bless you :)

Women

I was on facebook today and I had the fortunate ability to be apart of a discussion on God and women. And a friend of mine brought up the question why does it seem as though women are depicted as the weaker vessel (this question sprang forth after noticing that Eve was targeted rather than Adam because she was much easier to deceive than he would have been yet through deceiving Eve, Adam was deceived as well by Eve herself in her ignorance.).
Another person, a woman Ty, had gave the perfect explanation. The below is her response. And needless to say I LOVED IT. She points out that we are indeed the weaker vessel by design. We were designed to be the more delicate, nurturing and compassionate of the two. That is in no way to say we are less valued or any less important than man. Just that we are more delicate. This is also the reason why women are intended to be homemakers not breadwinners. Taking care of the family and training the sons is the MAN's duty. As a woman I am honored to be a homemaker.

Well it all starts with a basis... if you're bible is the basis it clearly says we are the weaker vessel... women are not VALUED less in the eyes of God. But we are more delicate. Our nature is such. We are made to COMPLEMENT men.. notice the root word in complement? Complete. Man is designated to rule over beasts and to cultivate the land. HE (adam) was in charge. He was made first... woman was his helper. Again. That does not DEVALUE her in anyway. its quite the contrary. His job is basically IMPOSSIBLE without her... But he takes the lead. Everything has to have an arrangement. an order. God is very well organized. Everything he has ever done makes sense... Now from an individual basis anything will vary... thats the BEAUTY of us and it just shows the work of an intelligent Creator. We are all made the same yet we can develop so many different characteristics... from man to woman... but essentially our make-up or originally intended make-up is the same. it was perfect. Now we are sooo far away from imperfection OUR VIEW is quite different than the creators. 

Fruit

What kind of fruit are you producing? It will determine the kind of tree you are. Think about it. You know an Apple tree because you see apples on it. The same for oranges & pears.
Now as a person either you producing good fruit for God or you producing bad fruit for the devil. There is no neutral fruit or neutral trees.
You can't proclaim to be a godly tree but producing bad fruit.
You can't proclaim to be a godly tree and not produce at all. God has given us the charge to go forth & multiply which also means to produce.

Make a choice.

Glory to God

What are you doing in your life? And is that glorifying God? Everything you do in life should give God glory because He should be first in it!
I say this because so many people will dedicate their lives to Christ and yet still commit sins of the world without a second care or a second thought to God. They have this thought that they can continuously take advantage of God's forgiveness. That as long as they believe in Him that what ever else they do does not matter. That is NOT true.
YES. God is a merciful and forgiving God. But please do not think that God is naive! He sees all and He searches the heart. So if you are not sincere in your dedication to Him He will know and will regard you as such.
Give Him the utmost. Give Him the respect He deserves.

Dress how you want to be Addressed.

In modern times in this society women gladly dress provocatively. They voluntarily place their bodies on display for men to ogle. Yet these same women "try" to demand respect. Hold up young lady! Think about your actions. Did you not dress yourself before you came out the house? Did you not dress yourself before you posed for those pictures? So why are you snapping because you are being addressed with the same respect to how you dressed?!
That for me is a problem. I think these young women need help into becoming young ladies. You can't expect lady like treatment without lady like behavior. That's why so many young men think its ok to disrespect women because they see women do it all the time. YES. How you present yourself can be deemed as disrespectful! If you allow curse words to come out of your mouth or refer to yourself as a b*tch then how can you get mad when someone else does?! Grow up and realize that no matter how you try to justify calling yourself that, there is no justification! Regardless to saying if I say I'm a bad b*tch then that's good. No you're still degrading yourself! Nothing you say will change that. Saying I dress like this because it makes me feel good about myself is a coward and low self esteem problem! If dressing provocative is the only way you feel attractive then YOU NEED TO SEEK GOD and get on yourself for HELP!!!
Because you can be completely covered and tastefully dressed and feel absolutely beautiful!!!

Me personally as a mom I dress tasteful everyday. And I feel beautiful everyday! I know that as a mom of two kids, I am my daughter's FIRST role model and I will definitely be a great one!

Blessings and love and peace to you!